Japanese culture and dating
This differentiation of the cultures is due in part to the separation of the two land masses, plus Japan’s periods of enforced isolation from the outside world, further extended the differences between the two cultures.Many times throughout history the first time a particular aspect of culture was imported from China it was of course very Chinese.Virgin or veteran, I feel for any Westerner or Easterner who dates or aspires to date inter-culturally this is worth a read. You might just understand the other half a little better after this.I’m going to start out with a disclaimer: Every person- and consequently every situation- is different. I am going off of my experience and some discussions with my Japanese friends and friends who have lengthy experience with the culture.However, I feel it can also help Japanese readers who would like to better understand the Western perspective of Japanese dating.I’ve included my thoughts as a Westerner on Japanese dating culture for that reason.I did have a Japanese boyfriend but I ended things with him to go to school in California.
Japan and the United States have different views of dating and marriage. Marriage has a long history in Japan, a history that is based on gender roles influenced heavily by Confucian views. If you want to learn more about gender role expectations in Japan, gender roles of women, and how China’s Confucius has even influenced anime, follow these links. The rules of dating, courtship, vary across cultures. There are a few key ideas that are identical to dating in Japan and in the United States.
In fact, couples who waited until marriage to have sex compared to those who started having sex early in their relationship reported higher marital satisfaction, better communication patterns, less consideration of divorce, and better sexual quality. In the United States it is normal to express interest in a person through touch, kissing, hand holding, etc. However, the idea of This is a concept that outlines Japanese behavior in public.
Japanese society pressures people to be respectful and considerate of others, even at the expense of your own needs (Larkin, 2005).
Mostly because I had no idea how the American dating culture worked.
I was young and naïve so it was a little scary in the beginning and I soon discovered the dating process in America is quite different from the one in Japan.